Remembering mom on Mother's Day

I barely slept a wink last night between coughing and being stuffy. I rolled out of bed at 5:45 am to take a hot shower to relieve my nasal passages. Thankfully my husband was home all day after working an unexpected double yesterday, so I was finally able to take a break, sort of... Do mom's ever really get to take a break though?

I'm hoping the very short nap and some much needed R & R on the couch will have me on the mend by tomorrow, as I would like to start this Mother's Day weekend off on a positive note.

I'm still so conflicted about how I want to celebrate Mother's Day. We haven't been able to start any traditions in the past because my husbands schedule was always changing. I'm still skeptical on his off days if he is really home, or if we are just waiting on a call to bring him back to work. Part of me wanted to visit the cemetery, but I knew that wouldn't be fair to my family. While I knew they would understand, how can I abandon my living family who wants to celebrate their momma?
On my birthday I asked my husband to get a Carvel cake because it was mom's favorite. I'd like to think of a special way to remember her this Sunday, rather than just sitting in my room or my car crying(did that on my birthday too). Here are a few ideas I have for remembering mom on Mother's Day...

1. Make a cd of her favorite songs and play it softly in the background.
2. Plant a flower, tree, or garden and dedicate part of it to her.
3. Find a favorite picture, put it in a pretty frame, and leave out where you can see it.
4. Write a poem about the good times you shared or why you were thankful to have her in your life.